From my library: The 7 Rings of Marriage by Jackie Bledsoe

Card catalogue dataThe 7 Rings of Marriage
The 7 Rings of Marriage: Your Model for a Lasting and Fulfilling Marriage by Jackie Bledsoe (Nashville: B&H Publishing Group, 2016)
Category: Marriage
Format: Paperback
Pages: 194 (207 with end matter)
About the author: Jackie Bledsoe is a professional blogger (jackiebledsoe.com), author, and speaker who is a young rising star in Baptist circles. He and his wife Stephana have been through the good and bad of marriage and want to pass along all the lessons they have learned.
Bottom line: Excellent marriage book that outlines seven stages of marriage in “rings”: Engagement RING, Wedding RING, DiscoveRING, PerseveRING, RestoRING, ProspeRING, and MentoRING. No matter where you are in your marriage, you will get something out of this. His emphasis, from a Christian perspective, includes prayer, communication, commitment, and many other concepts. Highly recommend.

Why I read this book
I had started this book before I left my former church position as I was considering Bledsoe as a speaker for a marriage retreat. I finished it after I left because it was so good. The author speaks form experience—not just a rose-colored glasses look at another fake perfect Christian marriage. They have been through many struggles and learned how to grow through them. He fully admits that a good marriage takes hard work, just like anything else worth having in life, but it’s totally worth it and the benefits far outweigh the costs.

What I’ve learned
One of the many things I have learned, or been reminded of, is the importance of praying together as a couple. I have let this slip in our marriage and want to restore this. Also the importance of communication in general, which takes time. I’m learning in this time of unemployment how important our communication is.

Favorite quote
“Marriage isn’t for you.” (Meaning when we live our marriage trying to please and honor each other, rather than always focusing on what pleases ourselves, we’ll have a great marriage.)

Rating: 5 out of 5 stars
Recommend for every couple no matter what stage you are in; also recommend to young singles looking to see what marriage should be as they plan for their futures.

Other related books:
Bledsoe also has a Bible study format of the book called The 7 Rings of Marriage: Practical Biblical Wisdom for Every Season of Your Marriage.

If you are willing

Large crowds followed Jesus as he came down the mountainside. Suddenly, a man with leprosy approached him and knelt before him. “Lord,” the man said, “if you are willing, you can heal me and make me clean.”

Jesus reached out and touched him. “I am willing,” he said. “Be healed!” And instantly the leprosy disappeared.

—Matthew 8:1-3 NLT

Jesus, no doubt exhausted and spent, comes down from the mountain after preaching “the sermon on the mount” over the past few days to a crowd of people. The crowds follow Him, curious. They ponder all that He has said, and what it means.

Out of the midst of the crowd comes an unnoticed—until now—undesirable. A leper.

People are afraid of a leper, afraid of catching the disease. Lepers are repugnant with their open sores and rotting flesh. And spiritually speaking, they are considered unclean to the Jewish people and should be kept outside the city gates. Yet, here he is. I imagine the crowd parting to get away from him.

Think of the courage it has taken him. Courage to step out of the faceless crowd, to be identified as an unwanted segment of society. Mothers shielding their eyes from even looking at him, pulling their children behind them to protect. Men contorting their countenance in disgust.

Courage not only to step out of the crowd, but also to approach this prophet of God, this mysterious man.

He approaches him and kneels and addresses Him as Lord. Note the respect and reverence. Note the humility. It reminds me of Paul’s words in Philippians 2:10-11 (NLT) when Paul says “that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue declare that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”

It takes courage to not only step out of the crowd and humbly be identified as unclean, but to further humble himself by bowing and honoring Jesus as Lord.

After demonstrating his willingness to humble Himself before Jesus, the leper ascertains Christ’s willingness to heal him. “If you are willing.”

He finds what millions after him have found: That Christ is willing to heal (although not always in the way that we expect).

Leprosy is not a disease we deal with much in first-world, 21st-century America. But there are plenty of other plagues, both literal and figurative. And there is the disease that has infected all mankind: the sin sickness of our race.

What do you need to approach the Lord with? Whatever it might be, it will take willingness, humility, and courage on your part. But Jesus is ready, willing, and able to heal.

Seven promises to help you persevere

per·se·ver·ance /pərsəˈvirəns/ noun steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.

The last couple of years have seen some difficulties for me and my family, and the word perseverance has come to mind many times. It takes absolute perseverance at times just to get through life, to get through another day.

I’ve been reading Jackie Bledsoe‘s excellent book The 7 Rings of Marriage: Your Model for a Lasting and Fulfilling Marriage. In one chapter he mentions seven promises from God’s Word that help us to persevere. These promises can apply to persevering in your marriage, in your job or special project, or in any area.

ONE You are unbeatable because God is always with you.

No one will be able to stand against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will never leave you nor forsake you.

—Joshua 1:5 NIV

TWO Things are working together, and good results will come from them.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

—Romans 8:28 NIV

THREE Despite the way life may look, you are a winner.

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

—Romans 8:37 NIV

FOUR God wants to help you, and He will if you ask Him.

Cast your cares on the Lord
and he will sustain you;
he will never let
the righteous be shaken.

—Psalm 55:22 NIV

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

—1 Peter 5:7 NIV

FIVE Even in tough times, good things are happening.

Even in darkness light dawns for the upright,
for those who are gracious and compassionate and righteous.

—Psalm 112:4 NIV

SIX God’s grace is enough, and His power is strongest when we are weakest.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

—2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV

SEVEN The challenges you face now pale in comparison to the blessings you’ll receive.

I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.

—Romans 8:18 NIV

I hope these promises from God’s Word encourage you to persevere as they do me.

By the way, I highly recommend Jackie Bledsoe’s book and his blog as well.